I dont think of myself as sexy......maybe cute . Everytime I try to seduce my husband I end up laughing. I want to do something subtle without being all out.... any suggestions? The best suggestion I have is to wear something you feel comfortable in. It doesnt have to be something a model would wear. Its not about the lingerie itself its about your attitude and how you present it! I am the same way, you just have to find your comfort zone with it. Turn the lights down low so that you won't feel like you are on stage with it on. I don't like myself in lingerie either, but my husband, OMG, goes wild for it. There is stuff that isn't slutty either. I end up laughing too.. which he likes lingerie. I've done my hoochie momma dance and laughed in nervousness even though we've been together for over 20 years. He knows from my reaction that I am trying to please him and that pleases him the most. Just relax and do what comes naturally..if he loves you he'll appreciate your efforts lingerie. get drunk prior, and tell him, "your in for a suprise" then just maybe watch the art of striptease by some hoe, they got tapes, my ex had to practice... just keep feeling yourself, get into it, cause i know he will my boyfriend was looking through a VS magazine and saw something he liked...i like it also but saw something else i liked and i dont know which i like better....so what do u think of these and which is sexier... btw i am 21 years old.